Daily Devotion: Gays, Eunuchs, Adultery and God’s Steadfast Love

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Bible Readings for Wednesday February 16th, 2011 – The 6th Week of Epiphany

*Click on each bible passage to expand the text.

Psalm 119:9-16

Proverbs 2:1-15

Matthew 19:1-12

  • I will delight in your statutes; I will not forget your word. – Psalm 119:16
  • Then you will understand righteousness and justice and equity, every good path; – Proverbs 2:9
  • “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another commits adultery.” – Matthew 19:9

God adores commitment and faithfulness.

As people commit themselves in marriage in covenant relationship before God, so too are is God committed to us and us to God through a covenant relationship. Through thick and thin, rich and poor, sickness and health. But unlike the human marriage relationship, God’s covenant relationship does not cease upon death, but continues throughout eternity in ways we can only imagine. It is the ultimate in fidelity. It is the ultimate in steadfast love.

God abhors infidelity.

Whether it is our tendency for selfish sexual and emotional gratification, or the spiritual infidelity of the idolatry of material things over God, it is all an act of betrayal of the covenant promise to love our partner and God before all others. It is God’s wish that human-kind should grow to overcome the our petty and destructive instincts for personal gratification, and develop a divinely inspired instinct for fidelity.

Matthew 19

12. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.”

A eunuch is a male servant, usually of a queen or otherwise a wealthy woman’s bedchamber attendant who has been castrated and thereby lacks any sense of sexual desire. We should view Jesus’ proclamation both literally in it’s sexual context and well as it’s spiritual context.

  • Some are born eunuchs: they do not care about the need of “stuff”, the praise of others, or the desires of this world.
  • Some are made eunuchs: through hardship, war, violence, and oppressive injustice, some people simply lack the ability to be seduced by worldly desire because their daily survival is paramount. If you’re starving in a war-torn  and famine stricken land, then sexual infidelity and material lust are the farthest concerns from your heart.
  • Some make themselves eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom: they realize that they do not have the ability to personally control their lusts for things sexual and material and they choose to “cut them off” in their lives. This is the most extreme of Christian spiritual practices and the exception, not the ideal.

God does not want us to be sexual and spiritual eunuchs, but God does recommend it for those unable to control their sexual and material “fornications”.

God wants us to fully participate in the joyous act of procreation, but with the reverence and responsibility the act of sex requires. Our sexuality is not simply a source of pleasure, but it is embodiment of the pinnacle act of God’s creation: the creation of human beings in God’s image. It is a sacrament because it symbolizes the vulnerability of God when God created us in his image, with all of God’s creative powers and abilities. God’s partner in creation. The ecstasy of sex symbolizes the ecstasy of “at-one-ment” with God. It is the moment when, ever so briefly, two become one.

God wants us to love, and sex also allows us humans to break through the last barriers of personal intimacy so that we may experience what it means to truly love someone else with the utmost vulnerability. Sex is an indispensable element in spiritual practice of love. But when we abuse it and cheapen its importance, it become the opposite: an act of injustice and oppression of others and ourselves.

While some view this passage as a condemnation of frivolous divorce, overall it is a condemnation of our hardened-hearts and soft wills that lead us to not try to be faithful to our marriage partner or to God with all of our heart and soul and strength.

Finally, some may ask, “Does this really end up condemning homosexual relationships?”

I say no.

God is both male and female, and neither, and both. To be in a covenant relationship with God implies I am in a marriage covenant with all those things. I love another man. My wife loves another woman. Even the same-gender relationship is reflected in God.

And while homosexual sexuality does not physically embody the act of procreation, it is still a sacramental representation of the vulnerability and trust of the covenant relationship. It can carry the same amount of blessing and growth in love, or the same amount of destruction and pain, as hetero-sex.

Controversial statements of this blog post aside, I pray that the meaning is not lost in emotional overreaction to what I’ve written.

We are called to be loyal, faithful lovers of our marriage partners and God. We are to persevere in that covenant relationship, and not give in the our desires for selfish gratification. We are called to to be willing to sacrifice ourselves for those we love.

This is to love as God loves us.

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Romans 5
"18. Therefore just as one man's trespass led to condemnation for all, so one man's act of righteousness leads to justification and life for all.
19. For just as by the one man's disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man's obedience the many will be made righteous."


  1. Thank you for this and thank God for this.

    I am at a Christian college and at this VERY moment as I type this there is a revival going on at the chapel. I left because I felt nothing. I am a gay Christian and I know the way my college feels about homosexuality. I cannot pretend to be okay with what they say about love, relationship, reconcilliation and be okay with it. Part of me wanted to go up there (as students were going up and saying things) and commit social suicide and come out. But I can’t do that because I know exactly what that’ll bring. I’m already an agenda to the Christian community (overall atleast) and I have no desire to be an agenda in my dorm.

    Thankyou Trig for this perfectly timed post and your encouragement. I pray all that “struggle” or “suffer” with homosexuality accept themselves just as God has accepted them already. He’s done the forgiving, loving, creating, casting his spirit into us – all we have to do is realize that we have not fallen from grace as so many say we have.

    Under the Shadow of the Cross

    • It is my privilege and honor that my simple blog is meaningful to someone like you, Ikkstans.

      My heart breaks to read what a secret life you must lead in order to pursue your faith. Do you honestly think that coming out to your classmates would be negative. If so, why are you at this college, if I may ask? Is it to know the “other view”, or is it darker? Like an attempt to “change” who you are?

      Aren’t there better places for a gay Christian to be if this school really is the proverbial lion’s den?

      Well, no matter. You are loved by the Lord no matter where you go to school!

      Don’t let the unfortunate words and judgments our of misguided brothers and sisters of this world get you down, Ikkstans. Just keep loving as Christ teaches… and slowly, heart by heart, you will change the world.

      • Hello!

        Yes it would be negative. Some do know. Some are very supportive — some are not. I know the general atmosphere here would not understand or be supportive so I have to keep it as secret as possible. I am here because I took a shot in the dark decision. I have already gone through Exodus International and some other “ex-gay” ministries but that was obviously very dark and horrendous. I am completely accepting of the way I was made by God now. And I am transferring from this school next year so I won’t be here any longer. I do know the “other-view” and I could and have written quite a bit about it.

        My heart breaks for those that sit in the chairs during chapel going through the same thing and I and trully stay silent. To themselves, to God, and to their classmates. My one wish would to meet one other person and show them that God loves them not despite of this BUT BECAUSE OF IT AS WELL. Afterall, that’s the Gospel.

        And again, thank you for your blog. It’s great, I check it all the time and love posting things on it.
        Under the Shadow of the Cross,

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